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alright, ever since i was about in grade seven my mom started to make things up about my friends or situations i've been in that were obviously false. i swear she thinks i've done drugs and drink, but in all honesty i dont! i've never tried drugs and i dont plan on it and i will admit i have TRIED alcohol once (when she was present) but i never drink behind her back or anything. i've told her before that i dont do drugs or drink because i know better and i dont really want to anyways.
she just asumes things and it gets me mad because 99% of the time what she thinks i will do is total opposite of what i would actually do. she never lets me do much because to me, she has a big trust issue. literally ALL of my friend's parents see me as the "responsible one" in our group of friends, yet it seems like my mom can't seem to see that as well. i know better than to do stupid things that can ruin my life. i don't follow my friends, because some of them are pretty stupid and i've seen them crash and burn. i feel like i can't make my own mistakes though, because my mom always has to know everything before i even plan to do something so SHE can stop me from making a mistake. i know that's what parent's are suppost to do, but i sort of feel like i can't live my life because i feel like my mom doesn't trust me. i've tried to talk to my mom about her actions and such but i find it really hard because my family isn't that open about things. we are all pretty quiet and when i try to talk about things my mom just gets upset and doesn't listen to what i have to say.

how do i get her to realize that i am actually a good kid and that she can trust me?

have you ever done anything at all to lose her trust?

my friend was talking to me about how her mum doesn't trust her, and i asked her if
she had a reason not too and turns out she went out with a 21 year old when she
was 14.

the only think that i can think of was not telling her i was going to a local punk show for my friend's 15th birthday.

was that before or after your mum started not trusting you?

i would say after. before that it seemed like she didn't trust me and then when that happened it was more noticeable that she didnt trust me.

the same thing happened to me in like grade eleven.. i realized that no matter what she would always assume that i was doing that.. so eventually i said fine.. you think i am.. so i will.. she found out i drink and smoke.. and got real mad.. but got over it.. she doesnt know i blaze.. and i intend to keep it that way.. but now .. shes cool with everything.. if i were you.. id go get sloshed and go home and be like there ya go.. im drunk!.. but then again im an idiot and like to start shit.. because thats what i did once when i knew i was in shit for failing shcool.. i got hammered and came home to get yelled at.. it was brutal.. but maybe then she will see that shes never seen you like that.. either taht or just sit down and say look i want to talk to you.. its important to me can you please listen.. i've done that one too.. it usually ends in a fight.. but after a few hours or days.. she cools down and realizes that what i had to say was true.. if the talk doesnt work.. well i dont know what to do.. all i can say is good luck and i hope it all works out for you B)

^if that doesn't work out, just smoke two joints and everything will be sweet

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^if that doesn't work out, just smoke two joints and everything will be sweet
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haha that works too