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I yused to self harm alot.

And I haven't done it for a while.

Its just sometimes I'm tempted and I need tips on how to stop.

And I'm guessing if any of you guys used to do it you'll have good advice.

thanks a bunch

Hannah

xxx

First of all, weldone for stopping. It seriously doesn't solve anything.
The short term "release" doesn't solve the issue you're cutting for.
It just makes more problems for yourself, and your loved ones.

I used to cut, and it got so bad I sometimes couldn't get the cuts to stop bleeding and had to go to hospital.

I think, if anything, find something you enjoy doing and spend your time doing a lot more of it.

Whether it be writing music, or riding your bike.

Good luck honey, I really hope you can get through it.

I used to cut and it really F'd up my life with my parents I was 14 than so it was a long long time ago but still
cutting is really stupid I get embarrassed when I see my scars well its hard to see them but when I do it brings back terrible memory's

i was a cutter got hospitalized saw a girl nearly die decided not to do it. Its a tough habit though meds help.

Scars are probably the worst bit.

I have really tanned skin, so they stand out so so much.

Thanks for such nice replys as well.

I always think its so much better when you can talk to other people who've done it.

xxx

i'm pretty much regurgitating what Vicky Wild said, but yeah. find things you really enjoying doing, things that make you happy and do them all the time. (something non self-destructive, of course!) It'll distract you from any urges to self harm, whether it's cutting or another form of self harm.

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Scars are probably the worst bit.

I have really tanned skin, so they stand out so so much.

Thanks for such nice replys as well.

I always think its so much better when you can talk to other people who've done it.

xxx
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Well, thats good motivation. You don't want to ruin a great tan huh?

I think youll know when to stop.. And if you dont others will know and they will help you. But you ahve to let them..
I know from experience..
It was a good stress reliever, then i found other things to take its place.

i was a bad cutter and burner a few years back. i didnt see how badly i was hurting myself until i stopped. after being hopitalized so many times, i knew i had to put an end to that part of my self mutilation. i still have scars but they r sloooowly going away. i know they will never go back to normal and ive accepted that.
good luck!

The first time it did it was wen i was twleve coz of what my dad did to me..i had this things with knives...so i have scars in between my fingers....
then 3 years ago i couldn't take it anymore i asked my mum to put me up for adoption an she obviously didn't...she started crying...then i went in the bath an started slitting my wrist...my mum knocked on the door so i stopped....i have a scar from wen i started on my right wrist.

i haven't done it since...told my mum yesterday i used to do it ...she just said what did u get out from it...i said it was a release...she kept talking to me like she was better then me....i cry coz of my dad but i don't wanna go to that place...thats why i wanna get a tribal tattoo on my wrist that says hope.....since i met shawky...he's made me not wanna go to that place an live again

i used to cut 2. my scars are all over my legs and arms i just wanna say that its really not worth it. im very proud of you if u stopped cuz it took me 3years to finally stop. my mom saw them and cryed. i now hav 2 go to counciling groups , see a shrink and take antidepressants. noone knows but my boyfriend but i did it again last month. its a bad habbit 2start.[color="#00FFFF"][/color][size="5"][/size]

I have them on my legs too, I think in a way its worse than arms because for me, my legs are a darker colour and they stand out.

Its taken me abit

I'm 16 now and I first did it when I was 13.

I guess its not easy but as I've got older I've met more people who've done it.

People who I'm really close to and really care about, and it hurts me so much when they do it, it makes me realise that thats what I do to them when I do it and itsnot fair.

xxx

I used to cut and shit like that. I stopped a while back because It was getting pointless. It id truely the biggest mistake of my life. I wish I had never started, I cant wear short sleeved shirts or shorts. none of that shit. And explaining wht happened twhen people see my scars sucks too. I dont want people to know so I feel bad for lying to my friends

well...i used to cut myself a lot...and i mean that,a LOT...
and when my mum saw me,she didnt know what to do...
anyway,i haven't done it for a while..but when i feel depressive or just bad or when im angry with someone,i do it...


you want to know how to stop?
Mmm,i think you should think in the way your arms are gonna look in some months...my arms are horrible,and when some friend sees me,is so embarassing..so,there u have a tip

^^

bye!

I was a cutter, hospitalized me thrice. Okay, only the first one was from cutting.


my only advice is to not take meds if you don't need them. they made me loony. worse than I was, suicidal in fact. Bloody pills

I started when i was 12, and decided to stop, 'cuase everyone was asking about my scars, and I had to lie, and some of my friends realised what was happening.
but some months ago I started again, and I just can't stop..I just feel so much better after that..
and I know it's really stupid, but I don't care.
Now I don't have friends that care about me anymore, and that's because I don't want to, i don't let them get in my life, so no one knows about it.
fuck who needs friends.

Don't cut, I'll be your best friend <3

it's easier to say than to do..

shit yeah I started again too. Shit sucks.

i was os tempted two weeks ago...wen i mean tempted i had the thing in my hand an was ready...but then i started thinking of shawky an i thought fuck this.... love him

i've never wanted to cut myself, i guess i'm lucky?

No, You're smart ^

don't cut

I haven't cut in like.. two weeks I think, so that's a good thing but I can't assure i won't do it again

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Scars are probably the worst bit.

I have really tanned skin, so they stand out so so much.

Thanks for such nice replys as well.

I always think its so much better when you can talk to other people who've done it.

xxx
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i would say something helpful, maybe, but id rather not because the resort for me and cutting was drug use. and i dont recommend that. so i will just say love the avatar. realy i do. i wish there were more trash in the world.

goodluck doll

i haven't done it for three years most of the scars have faded an u can't really see them...but i have one that visible on my right wrist its a 1cm long...i didn't finished coz my mum saw...but i still have the little ones in betwen my fingers wen i used to have thing with knives....i don't wanna go back there again

woah never saw this thread before. but yeah i definantly been there.
i started when i was thirteen. i had bloody gashes across my wrists and i'd try to hide the scars but eventually everything caught up with me one day when i had a doctors appointment. i remember that day like it was yesterday. i had a doc appointment and my doctor made me take off my sweatshirt to give me a shot. then she saw all the bloody cuts and my gashed up wrists and she asked me what it was. my mom was sitting in the same room. that's when my world fell apart and i wished i was dead at that moment. the look in my mother's eyes will never go away. i made her so sad. then they put me in fucking therapy and i lied my way out of that. but yeah it was intense. and im such a dumb fuck that i cut words into my arms and then its hella noticable. people see my scars and they're like in words and designs. its hard to cover up. then i went to high school. and i had to change b/c ppl thought i was wierd. i just learned to hide it better. always wearing long sleeves etc. i still do it. just not as much. i know i should stop, but as u all know its hard to do. those are the years when my best friend was the only person who could save me. but yeah the best advice i can give is to get involved in something. for example, i joined the swim team. so i had to kinda stop because i always had bare arms when i was swimming. though i haven't stopped completely, swim has helped me to reduce it. hope my story will help you to do what's best for you and find something more positive in life.

ps. sorry for the long rant. lol. <3

[quote:3ev775sj]woah never saw this thread before. but yeah i definantly been there.
i started when i was thirteen. i had bloody gashes across my wrists and i'd try to hide the scars but eventually everything caught up with me one day when i had a doctors appointment. i remember that day like it was yesterday. i had a doc appointment and my doctor made me take off my sweatshirt to give me a shot. then she saw all the bloody cuts and my gashed up wrists and she asked me what it was. my mom was sitting in the same room. that's when my world fell apart and i wished i was dead at that moment. the look in my mother's eyes will never go away. i made her so sad. then they put me in fucking therapy and i lied my way out of that. but yeah it was intense. and im such a dumb fuck that i cut words into my arms and then its hella noticable. people see my scars and they're like in words and designs. its hard to cover up. then i went to high school. and i had to change b/c ppl thought i was wierd. i just learned to hide it better. always wearing long sleeves etc. i still do it. just not as much. i know i should stop, but as u all know its hard to do. those are the years when my best friend was the only person who could save me. but yeah the best advice i can give is to get involved in something. for example, i joined the swim team. so i had to kinda stop because i always had bare arms when i was swimming. though i haven't stopped completely, swim has helped me to reduce it. hope my story will help you to do what's best for you and find something more positive in life.

ps. sorry for the long rant. lol. <3
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don't apologize if u think u were ranting....were here for each other....say as much as u want

i dont get the whole cutting thing, i mean ive been suicidal but never felt the need to cut. i have these weird marks on my wrists from where a hair-thing or ponytail holder was too tight and left these dark scar looking things on my wrists. So people think they are scars from cutting, it was weird, needless to say i dont use that brand anymore.

anyways, if i was seriously depressed i would put on a swans record or another record yell it out in my car and it was like therapy. also i think as you get older you mellow out and you realize you cant live life by emotions and feelings.

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i would say something helpful, maybe, but id rather not because the resort for me and cutting was drug use. and i dont recommend that. so i will just say love the avatar. realy i do. i wish there were more trash in the world.

goodluck doll
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Yeah I love that pic too

And thanks for the good luck. I thinkl I'll need it, but I havent' done it for at least a month.

So thats got to be a good thing.

Its nice to hear all these stories, beacause when I was 12 I thought I was like one of a few that did it, and I felt like a freak.

I must have been real good at hiding, because my Mum didn't notice until I was 15. And that scared me because it was something I never wanted my Mum to find out, because I knew she would have no sympathy at all, I was right,.

And yeah, don't apologise for ranting about it, thats what this thread is for .

And good luck to everyone who's done it cause I hope you can all stop. .

Much love

<3

im glad you've been doin good w/ that. me2. i dont want this to sound too cleshe', but im really proud of you!

"Cliche" You mean?

clichй, actually.

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im glad you've been doin good w/ that. me2. i dont want this to sound too cleshe', but im really proud of you!
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Awwwh thanks.

And I just wish everyone who has, does or has ever wanted to the best of luck with not doing it



<3

eh. i used to cut/burn myself. i didnt even know what was so bad about it. i got put on pills, but it made me want to kill things. i was really really upset. meds dont usually work, and if they do, the pain is 10x worse once your off of them. but that bit of my life is over now. i like doing other things much more. i got a girlfriend and released all that aggression in... errm... better ways. much better. B)

[quote:2mcueyt4]eh. i used to cut/burn myself. i didnt even know what was so bad about it. i got put on pills, but it made me want to kill things. i was really really upset. meds dont usually work, and if they do, the pain is 10x worse once your off of them. but that bit of my life is over now. i like doing other things much more. i got a girlfriend and released all that aggression in... errm... better ways. much better. cool.gif
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glad for you...when u find someone u lpve they sort of give u a reason to want to live again...like shawky has done for me

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anyways, if i was seriously depressed i would put on a swans record.
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AMEN.

I cut (just a lil' bit) a month ago.


No one saw me (just my best friend)


And i swear for god,that i want to do it right now.


That's why I'm writing this...


I dunno if i'd do it...but,i'll think about that.


P.s:I NEED A NEW FRIEND.


Now.

I wrote a name in my arm one,and i'm fucking regreting!


I hate the scar.



its horrible.


and all my friend ask: Do you have a name wrote in your arm,or it's just me?



IF YOU WANT AN ADVICE,NEVER DO IT!

I cut my legs off. Now I can't move. Sucks.

I am a cutter since my grandfather died...I simply cannot stop

it sounds like you're asking if there's a way to take the "bad things" away. they're never gonna go away. it's just a part of life. there's always going to be something going on in your life that brings you down. we don't live in a brady bunch world (and frankly, i wouldn't want to either).
you can't just eliminate something like cutting from your life. you need to replace it with some other positive way of letting out your negative energy.
personally, i have a hard time giving "cutters" sympathy because it's such a self absorbed thing to do. cutting ruins lives. that's plural. not just your own. and they never acknowledge that.
after a while, i took a look at how my own teenage antics affected my parents, everything i put them through. they just didn't deserve it. that brought me down even more. i hated myself even more. then i realized that was stupid. (i wrote a song about it called resurrected ghost. [url=http://www.myspace.com/thestandtalls:2uu5mx65]listen here[/url:2uu5mx65]. the first half sucks, but the rest is alright).
i guess you just have to hit certain realizations before things start to change. don't focus on quitting cutting. focus on making your life better. it'll fade away.

Hope it helps.

i stopped cutting on my arms cause i have to wear something where you can see my arms.
my supervisor already asked questions...
it isn't a good look.

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I wrote a name in my arm one,and i'm fucking regreting!
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yeah i know how that is. i did initials of someone and then when my parents sent me to therapy everyone was bugging me about whose initials they were. yeah my friends all asked me what it stood for, but i just made something up. eventually the initials faded for the most part. i also have a tendancy to carve designs and shit that are really noticable. which is not a good thing.

cutting is genereally not a good thing anyways

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mS. E said: cutting is genereally not a good thing anyways




We know.
Its NEVER ok.


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