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so i wrote this full page apology to the people i hurt in high school and i'm thinking of putting it on my blog on myspace.....i don't know how people will react or even care about what i wrote...any advice? i would copy what i wrote on to here, but it is super long...

I think reading it would help :]

[quote="berlin":kd9w5l3i]
so i wrote this full page apology to the people i hurt in high school and i'm thinking of putting it on my blog on myspace.....i don't know how people will react or even care about what i wrote...any advice? i would copy what i wrote on to here, but it is super long...
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I think that's a very nice thing to do, I always wish more people would do that as they leave high school..
I think it's a good move on your part whether people react or not you should post it, and if people are rude about it, they don't deserve it, and karma will work its magic somehow.

The thing is, sometimes bringing stuff up from the past can ruin things.

Well hopefully everyone has moved on and gotten over what happened, but it is still nice to hear an apollogy, no matter how long ago it happened. People can either forgive you or not, and you have to accept it either way. But at least they will know that you have changed and matured. I say go for it, we all remember what happened to Billy Madison when he called and apollogized to the kid he tortured in high school!

I think its very noble that you have learnt from it and realised you were in the wrong. I will never forgive the people that hurt me though but depends how bad it is.

[quote="Suzi Misfit":vllrawiu]
Well hopefully everyone has moved on and gotten over what happened, but it is still nice to hear an apollogy, no matter how long ago it happened. People can either forgive you or not, and you have to accept it either way. But at least they will know that you have changed and matured. I say go for it, we all remember what happened to Billy Madison when he called and apollogized to the kid he tortured in high school!
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Billy Madison is key.

okay, here it is...i hope i dont sound like a bitch...

High School?!?
An adventure for some, an awakening for myself. I guess i never felt comfortable in high school...i always felt a little older than most people there and out of place in a junkyard of people trying to prove themselves to fit in. A place where people judge you on the way you dress or what music you listen to even going as far as fighting with a person that has the same hair color(believe it, it happened to a girl i knew). It was a ridiculous place filled with an obsession of trying to look “cool” and playing the part of not giving a fuck about anything. I came across numerous people that apparently did not like me for whatever reason. A lot of those people didn’t even know me, but i did wonder what he said, she said bullshit was going around. I learned to ignore a lot of situations at a young age....it just felt like problems were following me and they came from every direction that i didn’t know how or where to store them. I kept a lot of it in and held it in for years and when certain situations stepped in too far i would explode. People can hold in anger, but once it gets too deep BAM! I traded in school for an independent studies program and I started thinking about every mistake and choice i made and i feel bad about some. For one i didn’t say goodbye to anyone....I didn’t think to look back. It is very easy for me to let go. I don’t hold on to anything or anyone because i know that things or friendships for that matter don’t last. The people that called themselves my friends used me for their little advancements and protection. I know it sounds weird, but the people who know me personally would understand. I acknowledge my faults and i take full responsibility for the harm i caused. I wasn’t innocent either, but i felt that since people painted this picture of me as a certain personality i would oblige. You get what you ask for. I caused trouble for those i didn’t like and i pushed away a lot of people even though i didn’t want to. Sometimes things are out of your control. I guess i wanted people to feel what i felt growing up. I wanted to see somebody else get hurt besides myself. I enjoyed it for a while, but i always felt bad afterwards. I felt it was okay to do these heartless things because it’s the way people said i was without even knowing me...some people know what I’m talking about and some may have no clue. I knew what i was doing was wrong, but it’s like someone trying to push you off the edge of a cliff, the only way to react would be to push back. I believe ones ego stops a person from taking responsibility and it definitely stops a person from moving on. I know the past is the past and nothing can be changed, but i know everyone has something they’ve wanted to say to someone and never had the will to do so and i lie in that category. I’ve always wanted to apologize to people for the little things that change everything. So one day my mind reminded me of some of the wrong things i used to do and i know why i am the way i am. Everyone grows up in a different environment which leads you to act in certain ways. No one knows what goes on in other people’s lives and they judge on what they don’t know. Some advice~ don’t think the world revolves around you!! people have separate lives. I think that was the problem with me, people didn’t know me and just judged me on the way i looked or who i was related to or who i would hang out with. But i have to say, i have finally accepted who i was and who i have become. I may look the same, but i am a different person. Like my art teacher said to my class: “when she looks at you it seems as if she looks right through you, but when she smiles she just lights up!”. When he said that i understood what he was saying to me. Everyone puts up a wall once in a while, but my wall stayed up for years and is currently breaking down...... So, to those who know me personally: I apologize for any harm i may have caused you in any way, shape, or form (even the little things). I’m not asking for a friendship or any kind of relationship i just want it to be out there that i understand my faults and i take full responsibility for what i’ve done. I figure, if i can’t cleanse my past i can still create my future. I especially want to apologize to the three girls i did consider my friends: Barbara, Gloria, and Anabel (even though things were not so copacetic with her in the end)... Barbara because i feel i ostracized you a bit and i do appreciate who you are as a person. You were always there for me no matter what and i really appreciate it. i know i can be a little ummmm.....you know how i can be!?!? Take it or leave it, shove it off and pay no mind, but i have accomplished one of the things i have always wanted to do. I won’t be able to reach everyone, but just by reaching one i know it’ll mold a certain situation into something different. Everything happens for a reason so that we can learn a lesson, keep that in mind!!....and that would be it....well sort of... *****berlin

Awh, Jimmy you big meany.

i'm sorry.

Your lucky Im not punishing but..for now, you're let off.

many thanks kind lady! *backs away bowing*

i that is a very good move. even if some ppl might not care, there is always a chance that that one person might read it& it might help let go of some of their built up resentment. i think that its a very good idea,& iwish that alot more ppl would think it out like u did.

actually, if you read the first post (black flag) i did mention it was "super long"

[quote="berlin":13er7ecy]
actually, if you read the first post (black flag) i did mention it was "super long"
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i know. i was hoping you wouldnt expect me to read it that's all. hence the book.

I personally don't think they would really care (nor would I think they'd take the time to read the whole thing unless they're already a good friend of your's and [i:rd48egwf]should[/i:rd48egwf] be interested in it). I mean, it's high school. That's the equivalent of dramadramadrama. Everyone knows it. All of that shit blows over with time. But hey, if it makes you feel better...

[quote="zombiekisses":377xr4pb]
Dude.. you rule.. that page of apology and contemplation is what i love reading.. i think it's great man..
" I guess i never felt comfortable in high school...i always felt a little older than most people there and out of place in a junkyard of people trying to prove themselves to fit in.".. the sad thing is so many people feel that way and don't get to meet people who feel the same way, but i'm almost outta high school and i've definetly felt that way this whole time, but it does help you as a person to be yourself even if it hurts, i'm glad you're like that. yay for you ha
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thank you!

[quote="Black_Flag":2xm8hj4w]
i know. i was hoping you wouldnt expect me to read it that's all. hence the book.
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yea good joke i get it, but i did warn everyone!?!?

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I personally don't think they would really care (nor would I think they'd take the time to read the whole thing unless they're already a good friend of your's and [i:1er2zbxg]should[/i:1er2zbxg] be interested in it). I mean, it's high school. That's the equivalent of dramadramadrama. Everyone knows it. All of that shit blows over with time. But hey, if it makes you feel better...
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Yeah i dont think most of them would read it, but like i said if at least one person does then it would mold a situation into a different one....for those who have matured!?!? I see a lot of them everyday and i'm personally tired of childish behavior.

The only way to end childish behavior is to ignore it. If that doesn't work, I suggest finding better friends. The letter thing only really seems self-indulgent to me, I dunno.

Just playing the Devil's advocate here. I'm not trying to push your buttons.

[quote="forgotten":3nq6si3z]
The only way to end childish behavior is to ignore it. If that doesn't work, I suggest finding better friends. The letter thing only really seems self-indulgent to me, I dunno.

Just playing the Devil's advocate here. I'm not trying to push your buttons.
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you're not...these people aren't my friends.

Then why bother?

to make them understand...it just sux when people judge on what they don't know

I guess I just don't understand why you would care what other people think.

it's not about that. i'm just the type of person that realizes what she does wrong and i think i owe some people an apology. you may never understand that...i am a rare person...

No, I get it. I used to be like that. And I too thought I was a rare and "special" human being. Really, I was just being self-indulgent. And then learned that we are all rare and special human beings.

[quote="berlin":189xrmrd]
to make them understand...it just sux when people judge on what they don't know
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amen dear.

i'm preaching to the choir!

How old are you, dude?

[quote="berlin":3a54xcfp]
i'm preaching to the choir!
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yeah i get shit on for not understanding how to post on here and get called a noob, when no one got it... everyone will never get anyone sadly, but how did the letter go anyway? .

No, we get it. We just make jokes here. That's what we do. You're serious. We're not. We make light of it. You get pissed. That's how that works. Until you lighten up, that is.

[quote="forgotten":1q04is8z]
No, we get it. We just make jokes here. That's what we do. You're serious. We're not. We make light of it. You get pissed. That's how that works. Until you lighten up, that is.
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There's ways of informing me, and being assholes isn't the right way to inform someone that they did something wrong when they meant well, just fact. I have a great sense of humour, don't talk about someone you don't know like you are man.

We're not being assholes. We're making jokes that you take seriously.
And we're off with the hypocrisy again..

[quote="berlin":2qc8oeup]
i'm preaching to the choir!
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back to the original question til forgotten threw up their two cents again.. how did the thing go?

I'm allowed to do that. That's what this thread is about. Grow up, hunny.

[quote="forgotten":3ox3lkyg]
We're not being assholes. We're making jokes that you take seriously.
And we off with the hypocrisy again..
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stop responding you're not doing any good.

Neither are you. And I will do what I please, sweet pea.

[quote="forgotten":3ktlkh2u]
I'm allowed to do that. That's what this thread is about. Grow up, hunny.
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i'm trying to ask her how her thing went man, don't call me hunny, and grow up yourself man, i'm a nice person who's MOVING ON and you're being immature, you don't even know me so stop.

I would stop, but this is faaaarrr too hilarious!

[quote="zombiekisses":2dqxk1mn]
yeah i get shit on for not understanding how to post on here and get called a noob, when no one got it... everyone will never get anyone sadly, but how did the letter go anyway? .
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well i'm still making some changes adding some things and deleting some things here and there....but it's going good...i'll put it up next week!

[quote="forgotten":24mbw4i6]
How old are you, dude?
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this gal is 20

Well all bullshit aside, I think you'd be better off just moving on and letting it all go. If this is your way of doing that, go for it. But I wouldn't recommend revisiting it.

And just so you know, I usually mean dude as a general term. I say it all the time. It's a bad habit.

it is my way of putting it aside because since the day my mind regurgitated it i can't stop thinking of the things that were done back then...i usually put these things away, but i do have feelings(believe it or not)...I understand, i say dude a lot too....but i get your point on what i want to do.

it is my way of putting it aside because since the day my mind regurgitated it i can't stop thinking of the things that were done back then...i usually put these things away, but i do have feelings(believe it or not)...I understand, i say dude a lot too....but i get your point on what i want to do.

Do you keep a journal? That helps a lot too.

By the way, self-indulgence isn't necessarily a bad thing, as long as its kept properly. I mean, I'm writing my memoirs. That's self-indulgent as hell. In my opinion, at least.

Hahah...why are dramatic threads so fucking hilarious?!

Dear Berlin,
If there is one thing you should learn about any and every Distillers board (Yes, I know this is Spinnerette, but none of you would be here if it weren't for the Distillers. Or should I called it Brodawg Boards). But. One thing you should learn is that no one here is really being an asshole. Like Kelly (forgotten) said, we make jokes, we're light and casual...and some people take things way out of hand and too seriously. It's the fucking internet. No one's trying to be an asshole...just giving their opinions. What'd you expect asking the question in the beginning of the thread? Everyone to have the same opinion?

Dear Zombie Kisses,
No one's being immature here. Last time I checked, Kelly is grown up...married, with a kid. Ever heard of a thing called opinion? Let me help you out if you can't remember:
OPINION: [noun]; a view of judgment formed about something.
Berlin asked a question, people replied with their opinions. Makes sense, right?
Just because you don't agree with somebody, doesn't mean you have to take shit so seriously out of hand!

Lighten up honeybees!

[quote="berlin":1idsh69q]
it is my way of putting it aside because since the day my mind regurgitated it i can't stop thinking of the things that were done back then...i usually put these things away, but i do have feelings(believe it or not)...I understand, i say dude a lot too....but i get your point on what i want to do.
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i think you should do it man, i'm looking forward to reading the final draft and seeing what people say, i think it's a good thing u posted this topic, you're a good person man.. there should be more of you.. i'm not a hippie i just appreciate people like you and know that there are few, and some people won't get it, but whatever happens it's a good move, and it's better to do that than to write it in a journal cuz then it doesn't go anywhere.

Writing in a journal is clinically therapeutic. That's the best way to take places period. There's no better place in this world than your own mind.